Ok, first of all please do not troll. I'm 21 years old. I have a girl friend that I know for almost 3 years. She was in a relationship for about 3,5 years with another dude. I haven't spoken with her in almost 4 months until 2 weeks ago. I called her and we went for a coffee. She told me she broke up with her boyfriend 2 months ago. Thing is I always had a thing for her, but I might have done something really stupid. In those 3 years I might have been a little too close to the friendzone (I can't really say because I'm not that good with humane relationships and I don't know if we are friends or just acquaintance). Right now, she offered to help me with my studies to pass my exams. Problem is I am kinda fat (not that much, but it is enough to destroy my psychology) and I can't really ask her out on a date-date. What would you advice me? Should I ask her out? Am I in the zone? Should I just leave her alone and forget about the whole thing? Are there any other alternatives ?
Step 2: Look for signs that she's interested in you. These can be as simple as her doing something nice for you that she didn't need to do. Also if you're spending 1 on 1 time with her then it's likely that she's interested. Just the fact that she told you she broke up with her boyfriend could be a hint.
Step 3: At worst you come out of this situation having learned something. Go for it dude!
There is no definitive answer here. (kinda ambiguous, I know)
When I was young, I would probably tell you "Definitely do that or you're gonna regret it!". And at later days I would probably tell you "OH GOD NO don't do that, you will screw it up." I've since found that "asking her out" is not the point.
Sometimes we will wonder "should I be with her" or "can I go for it now?". But the fact is, a relationship cannot be created. It's not like "I go for it" and now I created a relationship with her yay. No. Love relationship can only "happen" when the suitable circumstances are met.
Even if a young man and a young woman love each other very much, if that relationship bring hindrance to their career development, or some such, it might not be the best idea for them to be together. They may end up as just close friends, nothing more. "It's not the time." is a valid reason for a relationship to not get started. (And I advice people to stop using this excuse to break up, the only reason to break up is "I don't love you anymore")
My only advise to you is, be a better person. I am not just talking about shaping up, or making money. I am talking about learning what it means to love someone. Understand the commitment when you say "I love you". Know that love means sacrifice. Know yourself.
The question isn't "Should I go for her?". Instead, ask yourself, "Am I ready for it?"
Ok, first of all please do not troll. I'm 21 years old. I have a girl friend that I know for almost 3 years. She was in a relationship for about 3,5 years with another dude. I haven't spoken with her in almost 4 months until 2 weeks ago. I called her and we went for a coffee. She told me she broke up with her boyfriend 2 months ago. Thing is I always had a thing for her, but I might have done something really stupid. In those 3 years I might have been a little too close to the friendzone (I can't really say because I'm not that good with humane relationships and I don't know if we are friends or just acquaintance). Right now, she offered to help me with my studies to pass my exams. Problem is I am kinda fat (not that much, but it is enough to destroy my psychology) and I can't really ask her out on a date-date. What would you advice me? Should I ask her out? Am I in the zone? Should I just leave her alone and forget about the whole thing? Are there any other alternatives ?
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Step 1: Be confident in yourself.
Step 2: Look for signs that she's interested in you. These can be as simple as her doing something nice for you that she didn't need to do. Also if you're spending 1 on 1 time with her then it's likely that she's interested. Just the fact that she told you she broke up with her boyfriend could be a hint.
Step 3: At worst you come out of this situation having learned something. Go for it dude!
Ask her out
2 possible outcomes:
1) She says yes. You win. Congratulations.
2) She says no. Oh well, now you can stop thinking about her and go after other girls.
Do it now.
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There is no definitive answer here. (kinda ambiguous, I know)
When I was young, I would probably tell you "Definitely do that or you're gonna regret it!". And at later days I would probably tell you "OH GOD NO don't do that, you will screw it up." I've since found that "asking her out" is not the point.
Sometimes we will wonder "should I be with her" or "can I go for it now?". But the fact is, a relationship cannot be created. It's not like "I go for it" and now I created a relationship with her yay. No. Love relationship can only "happen" when the suitable circumstances are met.
Even if a young man and a young woman love each other very much, if that relationship bring hindrance to their career development, or some such, it might not be the best idea for them to be together. They may end up as just close friends, nothing more. "It's not the time." is a valid reason for a relationship to not get started. (And I advice people to stop using this excuse to break up, the only reason to break up is "I don't love you anymore")
My only advise to you is, be a better person. I am not just talking about shaping up, or making money. I am talking about learning what it means to love someone. Understand the commitment when you say "I love you". Know that love means sacrifice. Know yourself.
The question isn't "Should I go for her?". Instead, ask yourself, "Am I ready for it?"
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