Whole last year of my high school i did nothing but play hearthstone with my friend in class, i uninstalled hearthstone completely on my school laptop so i only have it on my stationary pc at home. And i feel you, sometimes id rather play hearthstone than join a party or skype with friends. i fucking hate and love hearthstone
Kids have laptops in highschool?! This better be some hardcore trolling bc u making me feel like some old man
I'm confused are trying to cure his addiction or get him to Legend?
If you have an addictive personality try drugs, they are very social, you have a lot more friends. :)
If your trying to get to legend play the same deck over and over (assuming it is a deck that hit legend), watch vids of people playing this deck, think about every mulligan and every play and think about them in a way that is a response to the deck you are facing. Now do this until you make zero mistakes with the deck and play a shit ton of games (500-900) and you will eventually hit legend.
The thing is bro, when you hit legend you get the card back....but there is no reward for hitting it a second time. Your life goal complete. Hours upon hours spent and victory achieved all will be meaningless. There will be no worlds left to conquer. What was it for?! WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN!?
Whole last year of my high school i did nothing but play hearthstone with my friend in class, i uninstalled hearthstone completely on my school laptop so i only have it on my stationary pc at home. And i feel you, sometimes id rather play hearthstone than join a party or skype with friends. i fucking hate and love hearthstone
Kids have laptops in highschool?! This better be some hardcore trolling bc u making me feel like some old man
My highschool has restrictions on what you can download / browse
Echo the guy who said to get in the gym. Regular exercise will often improve your brain chemistry and self image and provide you a new way to meet people and make friends close to where you live.
If you're into the feeling of progressing in a game, lift. You will progress every day you set foot in the gym as a beginner and it will provide that addictive part of your personality some positive stimulus. Keep a journal (either physical on a small memo pad or in a note or email on your phone) every time you work out so you can look back from time to time and see how far you've come.
You don't need to quit the game, but you need ground rules and you need to be religious about them. Don't play more than a certain amount of time. Don't play until you've done critical things (finished your work or studies, hit the gym, do your laundry, whatever) etc.
Im very addicted to hearthstone. but my addictions go off ridiculously. my dreams are me playing hearthstone. When I attempt a game I have the mind of I am going to get so destroyed and yet i always do. I just want legend but I suck so bad. I don't have anything else to do. my friends live far away and I have no relationships. I do not even know if I am just bad or I am credulously unlucky. any tips?
You need help bro, get detox right away, this is just a game, if its starting to be more than what it is, is not a game anymore is a drug, hope you get better, cause this is crazy shit.
Thaum, you aren't alone. I'm living in the middle of nowhere and there isn't anyone I relate to within travel distance. Gaming is my first hobby, followed by modding games. I've played Hearthstone since the release of GvG, and I've yet to achieve legend. I even quit HS for a while because I was so frustrated, but I eventually came back and I kept playing.
Games are an escape and a time sink, and my addictive personality has made Hearthstone it's primary drug of choice. I gave up trying to reach legend, and I've limited my play time to keep from neglecting my responsibilities, such as they are. I still get frustrated, and I still rail against the unfairness of the metagame, but I don't expect it to change, or for me to suddenly become better at HS than I am. I had this dream of streaming on twitch, but I let that go too.
I stopped allowing my hobby to become an obsession. I stopped feeling like I am not smart or clever because I can't figure out how to reach legend, or build a successful, original deck. I started doing something I know my type of intelligence can excel at, which is modding. I mod an old game that has a small, dedicated community and I reward myself for working through the problems I encounter there, by playing HS and other games. Frustration is built in to everything I do, so I stopped letting myself feel bad for getting angry. The anger is mine and it's under control, and I have constructive outlets for it, physical outlets that turn frustration into progress.
I think many who posted about exercise are absolutely right. One of my real life jobs is gathering firewood for winter. I get outside and I take an axe and a pole and I knock down dead trees, haul them to a clearing, then strip them of branches. I turned this into a game, where I use the heavy metal pole like a staff and I beat these dead trees like they were my enemies. Sounds foolish, maybe, but the exertion releases endorphins, so it feels good to tire myself out. It feels good to see those dead trees down, and prepped for the next step, which is cutting them up with a chainsaw, then hauling and splitting, followed by stacking. All the active hours in my day make my sedentary activities, like games, much more soothing and rewarding. I've released my anxieties and frustrations into my work, and I can relax, knowing that a real goal is being met, not some digitally designed and artificially difficult goal, a real one.
I've rambled, but I feel you, and I think you are on the right track. You acknowledge the emotional toll you are paying, and you realize that talking about it can help. Those are the product of your wisdom and will lead you to greater understanding of self. Try to realize that your intelligence level isn't on a graph somewhere, and that not being "good enough" at Hearthstone, or any game, isn't a reflection of how intelligent you are. Instead, find what you are good at and start working to get better. Hearthstone isn't about skill anymore anyway so, let go feeling like your ability to master it is important. Most vital is your self mastery, and engaging in an activity that allows you to harness and utilize your intelligence and emotion. Both are good for something, great things, even if only to you.
1. start playing arena. its fun and it gets you off the ladder grind madness mindset.
2. Do other stuff beside hearthstone... learn something. or just work out.
3. Understand that getting legend is kinda a stupid goal, not worth too much of your time. i play since closed beta and i never got legend... like srsly who cares, biggest i ever got was rank 2 because i had the time of my life playing my fav deck on ladder. Try harding the ladder is like the worst thing you can do.
When I was around 15 years old, I stopped going to school and I became extremely addicted to MMORPG's, I played a tonne, but as the years went on as you could expect, I became depressed, eventually I acknowledged this and I went back to education, I ended up going to college and then University, but everything wasn't perfect.
When I went to college, I was very determined to turn my life around and I left college with amazing grades (Distinctions in everything, I'm from UK and this is our equivalent of A*) but when I went to University (which over here is after college) I started to slack again and after years of trying University, eventually I dropped out and went back to playing games for years and being depressed again.
At this time I was 27 years old, never had a job and was pretty much maxxed out in Diablo 3 and Path of Exile. My addiction was back in full force and again I was stuck in a slump, depressed.
Eventually, again, I decided to do something about it, I have always been into art and video games and I decided to start making a game with a friend who was in a similar situation, long story short, I am now 30 years old and I am the lead game designer of an indie game bringing our first title to PS4 and Steam. I work tirelessly every day on our project and I am happier with my life than I have ever been.
So firstly, let me tell you, you have already taken the first step and acknowledged that you are not happy - this is a good thing, and I honestly believe you're going to do something about it. If I could give you any advise it would be: Just do something positive. It doesn't really matter what it is, just do something that you would like to do.
Having an addictive personality is something difficult to live with, but you can learn to work with it in time. You'll learn eventually that this is just how your mind works, and you'll learn that you can also get seriously addicted to things that are productive too.
Wow, thanks for this post.
I tip my fedora, good luck and many good things to you, sir!
When I was around 15 years old, I stopped going to school and I became extremely addicted to MMORPG's, I played a tonne, but as the years went on as you could expect, I became depressed, eventually I acknowledged this and I went back to education, I ended up going to college and then University, but everything wasn't perfect.
When I went to college, I was very determined to turn my life around and I left college with amazing grades (Distinctions in everything, I'm from UK and this is our equivalent of A*) but when I went to University (which over here is after college) I started to slack again and after years of trying University, eventually I dropped out and went back to playing games for years and being depressed again.
At this time I was 27 years old, never had a job and was pretty much maxxed out in Diablo 3 and Path of Exile. My addiction was back in full force and again I was stuck in a slump, depressed.
Eventually, again, I decided to do something about it, I have always been into art and video games and I decided to start making a game with a friend who was in a similar situation, long story short, I am now 30 years old and I am the lead game designer of an indie game bringing our first title to PS4 and Steam. I work tirelessly every day on our project and I am happier with my life than I have ever been.
So firstly, let me tell you, you have already taken the first step and acknowledged that you are not happy - this is a good thing, and I honestly believe you're going to do something about it. If I could give you any advise it would be: Just do something positive. It doesn't really matter what it is, just do something that you would like to do.
Having an addictive personality is something difficult to live with, but you can learn to work with it in time. You'll learn eventually that this is just how your mind works, and you'll learn that you can also get seriously addicted to things that are productive too.
1. start playing arena. its fun and it gets you off the ladder grind madness mindset.
2. Do other stuff beside hearthstone... learn something. or just work out.
3. Understand that getting legend is kinda a stupid goal, not worth too much of your time. i play since closed beta and i never got legend... like srsly who cares, biggest i ever got was rank 2 because i had the time of my life playing my fav deck on ladder. Try harding the ladder is like the worst thing you can do.
neither was I at the begining, being happy with 3 wins per run :P those were the days, now i average 6 wins, not where i want to be 7 would be perfect, but its ok. practice makes perfect. Just take mage or rogue and you will be fine :)
Thaumius, I truly sympathize with your pain and I sincerely hope you are able to improve your situation. I don't know the details of what you're going through, but I can tell you a little bit about what has recently helped me in my particular situation.
You mention that your friends live far away and that they aren't into many of the games that you like. Please don't let that hamper you. Maybe you can try some of the games that they're into and see what you think. There are many fun board games and video games that I've only tried because of my friends, such as Magic: the Gathering and Hearthstone.
Recently I went to a weekly board game night at a local game shop. I'm normally very shy and have a difficult time approaching and talking to new people. A person who had just moved to the county heard me playing Hearthstone on my phone and we immediately started chatting about that. Our shared experience with the game made it a lot easier for me to talk to someone new, and whether we become real friends in the future, that night was a rare bright spot for me.
As UnderworldThief pointed out, it's really important to be in the right mindset for Hearthstone, otherwise losing and being miserable can be a self-perpetuating cycle. I know this from personal experience. Please keep trying, and take heart from the positive responses you've already seen here. You are not alone, and again, I truly hope you can make things better for yourself.
Wait, do you have an addiction problem with Hearthstone in general or an intense craving for legend?
Either way, you can just uninstall the game if it's that bad.
That won't help he'll just find something 3lse. And there are worse things to get addicted to.
Take the advice in the thread. Start some sports. Go with ones that you can do alone first, then move on to social ones if you can.
Physical activity will help in several ways including being better at hearthstone. Anyone who has played e-sports, chess, Bridge or like any sport that does not require physical activity by itself will tell you that you need to work out to have the focus for games.
Then, if you still wanna play hearthstone figure out why and how. Make yourself goals.
Also, you should talk to your psychologist about this. They listen better than an online forum does.
If you don't have one, get one if you can afford it. They're good and the will help. I am visiting one every two weeks and it does help a lot even when you don't notice it. Just talking to people helps too.
Basically you need to find something else greater than Hearthstone, like all the other said you can start with going to gym, get in shape, once you have good self confidence go meet people, get a girlfriend, do something new together or develop new hobby etc. Basically alter your Hearthstone addiction to something more positive. Good luck.
Seems like your life was in shambles before HS. You need to figure our what makes you happy and go for that. And if it's not attainable then adjust your expectations.
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I'm confused are trying to cure his addiction or get him to Legend?
If you have an addictive personality try drugs, they are very social, you have a lot more friends. :)
If your trying to get to legend play the same deck over and over (assuming it is a deck that hit legend), watch vids of people playing this deck, think about every mulligan and every play and think about them in a way that is a response to the deck you are facing. Now do this until you make zero mistakes with the deck and play a shit ton of games (500-900) and you will eventually hit legend.
The thing is bro, when you hit legend you get the card back....but there is no reward for hitting it a second time. Your life goal complete. Hours upon hours spent and victory achieved all will be meaningless. There will be no worlds left to conquer. What was it for?! WHAT DOES IT ALL MEAN!?
Well best of luck bro! :)
My Recruit url for those who want dem packs! https://battle.net/recruit/CDF2JMK6CQ?blzcmp=raf-hs&s=HS&m=pc
Echo the guy who said to get in the gym. Regular exercise will often improve your brain chemistry and self image and provide you a new way to meet people and make friends close to where you live.
If you're into the feeling of progressing in a game, lift. You will progress every day you set foot in the gym as a beginner and it will provide that addictive part of your personality some positive stimulus. Keep a journal (either physical on a small memo pad or in a note or email on your phone) every time you work out so you can look back from time to time and see how far you've come.
You don't need to quit the game, but you need ground rules and you need to be religious about them. Don't play more than a certain amount of time. Don't play until you've done critical things (finished your work or studies, hit the gym, do your laundry, whatever) etc.
Motions creates emotions
Go out and play and lift
"willow willow" says Willow
Start listening to Type O Negative while you play. You'll either get to Legend or, well, express yourself in a bit different manner...
Faith in Humanity confirmed, great thread.
Thaum, you aren't alone. I'm living in the middle of nowhere and there isn't anyone I relate to within travel distance. Gaming is my first hobby, followed by modding games. I've played Hearthstone since the release of GvG, and I've yet to achieve legend. I even quit HS for a while because I was so frustrated, but I eventually came back and I kept playing.
Games are an escape and a time sink, and my addictive personality has made Hearthstone it's primary drug of choice. I gave up trying to reach legend, and I've limited my play time to keep from neglecting my responsibilities, such as they are. I still get frustrated, and I still rail against the unfairness of the metagame, but I don't expect it to change, or for me to suddenly become better at HS than I am. I had this dream of streaming on twitch, but I let that go too.
I stopped allowing my hobby to become an obsession. I stopped feeling like I am not smart or clever because I can't figure out how to reach legend, or build a successful, original deck. I started doing something I know my type of intelligence can excel at, which is modding. I mod an old game that has a small, dedicated community and I reward myself for working through the problems I encounter there, by playing HS and other games. Frustration is built in to everything I do, so I stopped letting myself feel bad for getting angry. The anger is mine and it's under control, and I have constructive outlets for it, physical outlets that turn frustration into progress.
I think many who posted about exercise are absolutely right. One of my real life jobs is gathering firewood for winter. I get outside and I take an axe and a pole and I knock down dead trees, haul them to a clearing, then strip them of branches. I turned this into a game, where I use the heavy metal pole like a staff and I beat these dead trees like they were my enemies. Sounds foolish, maybe, but the exertion releases endorphins, so it feels good to tire myself out. It feels good to see those dead trees down, and prepped for the next step, which is cutting them up with a chainsaw, then hauling and splitting, followed by stacking. All the active hours in my day make my sedentary activities, like games, much more soothing and rewarding. I've released my anxieties and frustrations into my work, and I can relax, knowing that a real goal is being met, not some digitally designed and artificially difficult goal, a real one.
I've rambled, but I feel you, and I think you are on the right track. You acknowledge the emotional toll you are paying, and you realize that talking about it can help. Those are the product of your wisdom and will lead you to greater understanding of self. Try to realize that your intelligence level isn't on a graph somewhere, and that not being "good enough" at Hearthstone, or any game, isn't a reflection of how intelligent you are. Instead, find what you are good at and start working to get better. Hearthstone isn't about skill anymore anyway so, let go feeling like your ability to master it is important. Most vital is your self mastery, and engaging in an activity that allows you to harness and utilize your intelligence and emotion. Both are good for something, great things, even if only to you.
Puck yo Firates
1. start playing arena. its fun and it gets you off the ladder grind madness mindset.
2. Do other stuff beside hearthstone... learn something. or just work out.
3. Understand that getting legend is kinda a stupid goal, not worth too much of your time. i play since closed beta and i never got legend... like srsly who cares, biggest i ever got was rank 2 because i had the time of my life playing my fav deck on ladder. Try harding the ladder is like the worst thing you can do.
Si vis pacem, para bellum.
Corvus oculum corvi non eruit.
My Recruit url for those who want dem packs! https://battle.net/recruit/CDF2JMK6CQ?blzcmp=raf-hs&s=HS&m=pc
neither was I at the begining, being happy with 3 wins per run :P those were the days, now i average 6 wins, not where i want to be 7 would be perfect, but its ok. practice makes perfect. Just take mage or rogue and you will be fine :)
Wait, do you have an addiction problem with Hearthstone in general or an intense craving for legend?
Either way, you can just uninstall the game if it's that bad.
Thaumius, I truly sympathize with your pain and I sincerely hope you are able to improve your situation. I don't know the details of what you're going through, but I can tell you a little bit about what has recently helped me in my particular situation.
You mention that your friends live far away and that they aren't into many of the games that you like. Please don't let that hamper you. Maybe you can try some of the games that they're into and see what you think. There are many fun board games and video games that I've only tried because of my friends, such as Magic: the Gathering and Hearthstone.
Recently I went to a weekly board game night at a local game shop. I'm normally very shy and have a difficult time approaching and talking to new people. A person who had just moved to the county heard me playing Hearthstone on my phone and we immediately started chatting about that. Our shared experience with the game made it a lot easier for me to talk to someone new, and whether we become real friends in the future, that night was a rare bright spot for me.
As UnderworldThief pointed out, it's really important to be in the right mindset for Hearthstone, otherwise losing and being miserable can be a self-perpetuating cycle. I know this from personal experience. Please keep trying, and take heart from the positive responses you've already seen here. You are not alone, and again, I truly hope you can make things better for yourself.
Also, you should talk to your psychologist about this. They listen better than an online forum does.
If you don't have one, get one if you can afford it. They're good and the will help. I am visiting one every two weeks and it does help a lot even when you don't notice it. Just talking to people helps too.
The rng is what keeps me from being addicted. Rag hits my face with 5 minions? Disconnect!
Basically you need to find something else greater than Hearthstone, like all the other said you can start with going to gym, get in shape, once you have good self confidence go meet people, get a girlfriend, do something new together or develop new hobby etc. Basically alter your Hearthstone addiction to something more positive. Good luck.
Seems like your life was in shambles before HS. You need to figure our what makes you happy and go for that. And if it's not attainable then adjust your expectations.